C o n n e c t i v i t y

I write this mainly as a reminder to myself, because despite the title this isn't going to be me giving advice on how I made connections last. It is actually a post to remember why I must keep connections lasting and make more effort for the people I want to connect with. 

The more you live life, the more connections you make - its inevitable. Almost by logic, the more you are around in an area, going through a transition, within a significant part of life, people make life! As connections grow, people move on but shifting through the people you meet from the people who actually make a real impact on you. That is a special. I’m not someone who makes many connections. I chose to be like that. So I take a big warmth and glow when I meet someone that sparks a flicker of newness and energy.

I also think, knowing the different when a connection that has been loosing signal for sometime is worth completely letting go. Again, because I struggle to make initial connectivity with people, I then struggle to know if it’s worth holding on or letting go - for the good of both of us.

 Also, a connection (pretty much like phone signal) can come in the most strangest of places - make sure you create those opportunities for that connection to join you.

If you feel good when you are with them - connect

If you feel inspired by them - connect

If you have a deep history with them and it is a positive relationship - connect

If they get excited to hear/ see you - connect

If they make you feel worse after seeing them - disconnect

If they criticise you or who you are - disconnect

If they are a bad part of your past - disconnect

If you feel they aren't making the effort back - disconnect 

If you have a obligation to stay in touch rather than a choice - re- evaluate 

If you can't remember why you are friends - find a new reason

If you'd rather text then see them - is that a friendship or a robot

If they make you feel unworthy of who you are - DITCH THEM COMPLETELY!

Friendships can make life the most exiting place to be. But the wrong friendship can cause the most significant impact without realising it.

Let everyone feel welcome, but don't let everyone stay!

  x